Walking in Divine Understanding
In this message, the preacher explores what it means to truly walk in understanding — discerning God’s truth and applying it wisely in our marriages, families, friendships, and daily struggles. Drawing from the lives of Solomon, Rehoboam, and others, the sermon encourages believers to listen before answering, ask before assuming, and receive correction with humility, so that unity and love can flourish in every relationship. It closes with a powerful altar call inviting all who are struggling to receive God’s gift of understanding and peace.
Overview
Preaching from Proverbs 4:7, the speaker teaches that unity among believers—whether in marriage, family, friendship, or church community—depends on genuine understanding, not merely hearing words or knowing facts. Drawing on Psalm 133, the account of Rehoboam in 1 Kings 12, and Solomon's prayer for a discerning heart in 1 Kings 3, the message argues that the enemy's primary strategy is division, and that spiritual maturity means recognizing a "spirit" behind people's behavior rather than fighting the person themselves. The sermon closes with practical habits for growing in understanding and an altar call for those needing a "discerning heart" in their relationships.
Key Scripture Passages
- Psalm 133:1–3 — Unity among brethren is likened to precious anointing oil running down Aaron's beard, showing that unity releases divine blessing and power.
- Proverbs 4:7 — "Wisdom is the principal thing; therefore get wisdom: and with all thy getting get understanding" — the sermon's central text, framing understanding as the companion and outworking of wisdom.
- 1 Kings 12:16–17 — Rehoboam rejects the elders' counsel for his peers' flattery, causing the kingdom of Israel to split — a warning against lacking a teachable spirit.
- 1 Kings 3:9 — Solomon's prayer, "Give therefore thy servant an understanding heart to judge thy people, that I may discern between good and bad," models the right request to bring before God.
- Genesis 11 (Tower of Babel, referenced) — Used to show that united people have great capacity ("nothing that they cannot do"), which is why the enemy targets unity for destruction.
- Luke 23:34 (referenced, "Father, forgive them, for they know not what they do") — Jesus' response to His enemies as the model of understanding that leads to forgiveness.
- Ephesians 6:12 (referenced, "we wrestle not against flesh and blood... but against principalities and powers") — Grounds the teaching that people are not the real enemy; spiritual forces operate behind human behavior.
Sermon Outline
- Unity releases divine power and blessing (Psalm 133).
- Unity is compared to the anointing oil flowing from Aaron's head to his garments — where there is unity, blessing and prosperity flow.
- The enemy specifically targets unity: couples, friendships, families, and communities are prime targets for division because united people accomplish what divided people cannot (illustrated by the Tower of Babel).
- Testimonies shared: a member's student loans cancelled after united prayer; a pastor's granddaughter healed and able to attend kindergarten after corporate intercession.
- Division often has no real foundation — it is manufactured by the enemy.
- Perceived offenses ("she didn't greet me") are frequently imagined or exaggerated by spiritual deception, not reality.
- Believers are called to actively resist and "shut down" these suggestions rather than let them fester into estrangement.
- Understanding is the key to sustaining unity, especially in marriage.
- Marriage is likened to "driving on rocky roads" (illustration attributed to the preacher's "spiritual father"/prophet) — the posture must shift from "wanting to live with" to "wanting to die with" a spouse.
- The preacher shares personal testimony of near-divorce and the cost division would have brought, contrasted with God's restoration through endurance.
- Rejecting the "if I were you" counsel of others ("I'm not you") in favor of asking what God is saying about the situation.
- Defining true understanding (Proverbs 4:7).
- Understanding = discerning God's truth about a situation and applying that truth wisely — it goes beyond hearing words or knowing facts.
- It enables an appropriate, Christlike response rather than a reactive one (modeled by Jesus: "Father, forgive them, they know not what they do").
- Applied to generational patterns: parents extending the same patience to children/grandchildren that they once needed themselves.
- Understanding the real enemy behind people's behavior (1 Kings 12:16–17; Ephesians 6:12).
- Rehoboam's story: he ignored his elders' wise counsel to ease the people's burdens, instead heeding peers who told him to rule harshly — resulting in the kingdom's division.
- Lesson: elders/true friends tell hard truths; flattering friends only offer comfort, not correction.
- The real battle is against "principalities and powers," not the person — recognizing this allows believers to pray for people instead of fighting them, and to seek deliverance for both themselves and others.
- Solomon's model prayer for discernment (1 Kings 3:9).
- Rather than asking for wealth, Solomon asked for "an understanding heart... to discern between good and bad."
- Applied to finances, relationships, and church life — understanding brings insight into root causes (e.g., why money "disappears" despite steady income).
- Illustration: a late-night prayer session in which God revealed hidden information the group had not anticipated, showing discernment exceeds human assumption.
- Four practical habits for growing in understanding.
- Listen before answering — many "answer" in their minds before the other person finishes speaking, leading to wrong or defensive responses.
- Ask before assuming — operating from fear leads to silent assumptions that fracture relationships; direct, honest questions preserve them.
- Receive correction with humility — illustrated by the preacher's own response to a gas station attendant's correction; humility prevents offense from taking root.
- Pray before reacting — the preacher recounts a past conflict he would have handled differently with more discernment, urging hearers to seek God's perspective before responding to conflict.
- Altar call / application moment.
- Invitation for those needing understanding in marriage, family, finances, or church relationships to come forward for prayer.
- Closing prophetic word to a specific individual ("Agnes") to "put the house in order," modeling practical stewardship as an outworking of understanding.
Theological Insights
- Wisdom and understanding are paired but distinct — Proverbs 4:7 presents understanding as the necessary companion to wisdom; wisdom perceives truth, understanding applies it rightly to specific people and situations (cf. Proverbs 2:6, "the LORD giveth wisdom... knowledge and understanding").
- Unity as a conduit for corporate blessing — Psalm 133's image of oil flowing from head to garment reflects the high priestly anointing (Exodus 29:7; Leviticus 8:12) consecrating Aaron for service; the Psalm applies that same consecrating, empowering flow to relational unity, suggesting that disunity is not just relationally costly but spiritually constricting.
- Spiritual warfare reframes interpersonal conflict — Ephesians 6:12's "principalities and powers" language underlies the sermon's repeated point that fighting a person rather than praying against the spirit behind them misdirects the real battle (cf. 2 Corinthians 10:3–4).
- Forgiveness flows from understanding, not the reverse — Jesus' word from the cross ("they know not what they do," Luke 23:34) is used as the paradigm: comprehending why someone acts as they do (ignorance, pain, spiritual oppression) dissolves the grounds for bitterness.
- Corporate/generational division as a biblical pattern — Rehoboam's failure recalls a broader biblical motif where rejecting counsel fractures covenant community (cf. the later division of the Northern and Southern Kingdoms, 1 Kings 12 in full), illustrating that leadership without a teachable spirit has national, not just personal, consequences.
- Rightly ordered desire in prayer — Solomon's request for an understanding heart over wealth or long life (1 Kings 3:9–13) models asking God for character and discernment above material blessing, echoing Matthew 6:33, "seek ye first the kingdom of God... and all these things shall be added."
Word & Context Study
- Understanding (Hebrew: bînâh, from the root bîn, "to discern/distinguish") — In Proverbs 4:7, this term carries the sense of discernment that separates and rightly applies truth, rather than mere intellectual comprehension; consistent with the sermon's emphasis that understanding "goes beyond hearing words or knowing facts."
- The anointing oil on Aaron (Psalm 133:2; Exodus 30:22–33) — The oil described was a specially compounded holy mixture used exclusively to consecrate the priesthood and tabernacle; its abundant flow "down to the skirts of his garments" pictures blessing that is not rationed but overflowing, lending weight to the sermon's claim that unity is the catalyst for abundant, flowing blessing.
- Rehoboam and the "elders" vs. "young men" (1 Kings 12:6–11) — The historical/cultural backdrop involves two competing counsel groups: the seasoned elders who had served under Solomon and understood the burdens already placed on Israel (notably forced labor for Solomon's building projects), versus young courtiers seeking to establish Rehoboam's authority through harshness. The episode is a classic ancient Near Eastern test of a new king's wisdom in his first public decision.
- Principalities and powers (Greek: archai and exousiai, Ephesians 6:12) — These terms denote ranked spiritual authorities and forces of evil operating in the unseen realm; Paul's point, echoed in the sermon, is that human conflict often has a spiritual instigator behind it, which is why prayer and discernment—not retaliation—are the prescribed weapons.
Application
- Before reacting to an offense, pause and ask God for discernment rather than assuming the worst about another person's motives.
- Guard unity in marriage, family, and church relationships as a spiritual priority, recognizing that division is often the enemy's direct strategy rather than an accurate reading of events.
- Resist the counsel of people who only validate your feelings ("if I were you..."); instead seek godly, even corrective, counsel from spiritually mature elders or mentors.
- Practice the four habits taught: listen fully before responding, ask directly instead of assuming, receive correction humbly, and pray before reacting to conflict.
- When someone wrongs you, consider praying for them and for discernment about what may be influencing their behavior, rather than confronting in anger.
- Pray Solomon's prayer personally: ask God for an understanding/discerning heart regarding marriage, finances, parenting, or ministry decisions rather than only asking for material provision.
- In parenting, extend patience to children/grandchildren's immaturity by remembering one's own past behavior at that age, trusting they will grow into understanding.
Reflection & Discussion Questions
- In what current relationship (marriage, family, friendship, church) might you be fighting the person rather than praying against what may be influencing them?
- The sermon says understanding "goes beyond hearing words or knowing facts." What is a situation where you heard someone correctly but still failed to truly understand them?
- Rehoboam rejected wise, experienced counsel in favor of peers who told him what he wanted to hear. Who are the "elders" in your life, and are you currently listening to them or avoiding them?
- Solomon asked God for an understanding heart rather than wealth or long life. If you prayed that prayer honestly today, what specific area of your life would you want God to give you discernment about?
- The preacher describes "listening before answering" and "asking before assuming" as disciplines. Which of these is hardest for you, and in what relationship could you practice it this week?
- How does recognizing unity as a source of spiritual power and blessing (Psalm 133) change how you view conflict or distance in your own close relationships?
Conclusion
The message calls believers to pursue understanding as the indispensable companion to wisdom—not simply hearing truth but discerning it rightly and applying it with love. Division, the sermon insists, is rarely incidental; it is a deliberate strategy of the enemy to rob families, marriages, and communities of the unity through which God's blessing flows. By listening before answering, asking before assuming, receiving correction with humility, and praying before reacting, believers can, like Solomon, cultivate a discerning heart that sees beyond people's behavior to the deeper truth of their situation—responding not with judgment but with mercy, forgiveness, and restored relationship.
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jesus amen but today i just want to speak on a topic called understanding understanding hallelujah
because sometimes we walk around and we don't have understanding what do we understand about life
what do we understand about family what do we understand about marriage what do we understand
about children what do we understand even about our workplace ministry church our community our
city our nation until we get understanding we will always fail the enemy will find a way to
enter in and take from us amen so now when you look at uh psalm 133 verse 1 to 3 let's go there
psalm 133 verse 1 to 3 it says how good and how pleasant it is for brethren to do what dwell
together in what in unity now god is saying that it is good and it is pleasant can you imagine have
you ever had a relationship with someone now when you see them you can be just free you know you
Even if you are going through something, you just say, this is what I'm going through.
Because why?
You are united with that person.
That you know that the person loves you no matter what.
And the word of God is telling us that how good and pleasant it is when brethren, when we dwell together in what?
In unity.
Hallelujah.
Hallelujah.
How good and pleasant the word of God.
Let's go to the next verse.
It is like the what?
The precious ointment upon the head that run down upon the beard.
even Aaron's beard that went down to the skirts of his garment he's saying that
it is like the anointing oil that run on top of Aaron down to his head from his
head to his beard it is like the unction upon the priest the high priest God says
that this is how he compares unity and his power you see there was a time that
the people of Israel they got together and begin to build a Tower of Babel
God looked down upon the face of the earth and said these people are one there
is nothing that they cannot do so anytime the enemy sees like a couple come together what do
you think he's going to do break it hallelujah friendships come together what do you think the
enemy will do break it sometimes we hear things that that's something we hear things that are most
times it's not even there the person might know you know people can even walk into this sanctuary
oh this person did not greet me sometimes the person is not even thinking of you
but the enemy can put that thoughts and make that thought to become something big
And then all of a sudden now you are staying from away from that person that person also staying away from that person
And by the time you sit down to sit and actually find out what really went on nothing has actually come up nothing happened
But the enemy is able to come in and break families break relationships
Oh somebody break communities or somebody but today we stand up against it or somebody in the mighty name of Jesus
hallelujah oh my god we stand up against it in the mighty name of jesus because he said it's like the
anointing so there is nothing powerful so sometimes we are in the house of the lord praying father
give me anointing no but father pray for us to be united because when we get united the anointing
will do what will flow hallelujah when we become one somebody what the anointing will do what will
flow their blessings will flow the heavens will open prosperity will come for the people in the
name of jesus when we see that somebody is blessed that we are not upset we are excited
because why that boy we know that we are one so as long as i'm one if this one get it it's like i
got it oh somebody hallelujah there is no division there is nothing going on between us all we know
that god is doing blessing us when was it this one day this week i was i think i was driving
going somewhere thursday and it was early in the morning and and dickness olivia called me
she said apostle that testimony just blessed me so much because we know that she went to do her
next practitioner course she finished to the glory of god they cancelled all her student loans amen
and then now she said apostle this is my student of fifty thousand dollars and everybody
Oh, everybody applied, but I'm the one that they gave the council already there.
Oh, somebody, are you clapping your hands for Jesus?
I need to tell somebody that when we come united and praying and be one.
Oh, somebody, anything can happen among us.
Hallelujah.
Pastor Mary shared her testimony last week.
When Pastor Mary's granddaughter was born, this child was born.
They were putting all kinds of things.
She almost died.
And they put all kinds of things on her.
They said that she couldn't even speak.
She couldn't go to school.
She couldn't do this.
we got together and we started praying we cried on to the king of kings and the lord of laws
do you know that today the child went to kindergarten they said no she needs to jump
great oh are you hearing me are you hearing me because what we are united in prayer hallelujah
so why is all the divisions among us when you see division is the enemy that is trying to rob us
of whatever God has for us so when you see that the enemy is knocking your door
be the one that say no I'm not listening oh I'm not listening to what the enemy
is doing oh be the one that's I'm shutting it down oh somebody let's
let somebody bring something to you yeah I posted it is okay yeah but I love
you know I was listening to our spiritual father prophet on the last week he was
talking some about something about marriage he said you know marriage he
He said it's like driving on the rocky roads in Ghana.
How many people have been to Ghana?
So if you have been to Ghana and you see all the potholes,
he said marriage is like driving on the potholes.
But he said in the beginning of the marriage,
you say you want to live with the person.
But you get to a place where you say,
we want to die with the person.
And when you say you want to die with the person,
it doesn't matter what the person does.
You don't pay the person any mind.
Hallelujah!
Can we get to a place that we can become so united
that we say, it doesn't matter what Pastor Meredith is.
I love her anyhow. Oh, it doesn't matter what his father does. I love her anyhow. It doesn't matter what his pastor Terry does. What? I love her anyhow. It doesn't matter what my spouse does. I love you anyhow. It doesn't matter what my children do. Somebody will do that. I love you anyhow.
because since I'm telling you if you don't have that attitude the enemy will
rob you there was a time when my marriage was going through such a turmoil
that I was really prepared to get out of it and then God begin to speak to me and
do you know that I have to tell you that if I had divorced the enemy would have
robbed me of everything I know by now we would have lost everything that we have
worked for and I've been married over 30 years so I would have lost every
property but now do you know that god is restoring oh somebody are you clapping your hands for jesus
the god of restoration so then i have to die to myself even when i hear the enemy saying this one
this person did if i were you don't know i have people that say to me if i were you i'll be out
of the marriage my god but tell the person i'm not you oh when somebody comes to us if i were you
i would have left the church say no i'm not you if i were you i wouldn't be talking to that person
say to the person what i'm not you that is why i'm not you amen hallelujah so the enemy has a way
to rob us and how he rob us is to bring what division confusion all kind of manner of all evil
but we need to what arise above it hallelujah so that the family can move forward the community can
move forward the city can move forward the nation can move forward to his glory in the name of jesus
so i need you to understand that the only way we can work in unity is we come to a place of
understanding do we even understand each other do we understand so now the word of god tells us in
providence chapter 4 verse 7 let's go there understanding understanding it's a less risk
together says what wisdom is what therefore and with all you're getting
let's say that let's read it again wisdom is what that frog and with all
who get in oh my god so he said wisdom knowing how to apply not so people can
read the word of God but sometimes we don't know how to apply it amen we can
have friendships but we don't know how to apply the relationship that goes on with between us
amen so he's saying that wisdom is a principle thing therefore get wisdom and with all thy getting
get understanding and when i talk about understanding what am i saying discerning
god's truth and applying that truth wisely discerning god's truth about the situation
amen hallelujah and applying that truth word wisely so that is why i'm telling you that the
situation that somebody will tell you if i were if you know don't listen people say if it was me
you are not demo hallelujah if it was me i'll just quit the job yes you quit and the next time
you find yourself if you are not being directed you find yourself in worse situations if i were
you i will do this if i were you i'll kick that child out i will start no what is god saying
concerning that situation hallelujah if i were you i would be in that divorce i'll pack up and go
what is my god what is god saying to you hallelujah and that is the understanding that we need to get
so that we can be able to navigate life responsibly amen so understanding if you are taking notes
write it understanding goes beyond hearing words or knowing facts amen understanding somebody goes
beyond what hearing words and knowing facts it goes beyond that amen it means that you are able
to respond to what somebody is doing appropriately you know jesus had so many enemies but one thing
that one day jesus begin to say god forgive them they don't know what they are doing do you know
that do you know that misunderstanding will get you to that place that somebody can do something
to you and you can just look at the person and say let me let them go they don't know what they are
doing do you know that it will deliver a lot of families oh that your children can start them
behaving now and you want to do us and then you say no they don't know what they are doing because
why sometimes you can look back to the other day i think i was talking to pastor terry i said look
back to when you were in that age what look at the things that you were doing hallelujah so when
you look at those things that you were doing then you see that your children is
their time for them to do it and their grandchildren is their time for them to
do but one day they'll come to a place of understanding and they will stop oh are
you clapping your hands for Jesus because they don't know hallelujah they don't
know they think it's something new but you have done it so now is your is their
time for them to do it but let them get to a place of understanding and and you
consider have you ever been to a place where you say what was I thinking when I
did that thing how many people maybe it's just me what was wrong with me so they will also come to
a place where they will say what was wrong with me oh hallelujah oh somebody hallelujah so now
when you look at first kings chapter 12 verse 16 to 17 i want you to go there first kings chapter
12 verse 16 to 17 because i need us to come to a place where we understand be very careful to
understand this sin that's one prayer that we need to pray for us father sharpen my discernment
why is this person doing this thing that they are doing right now so that i can be able to forgive
them do you know that that is why we we cover all kind of unforgiveness against people we don't
understand them but when you come to a place where you understand them you will just be able to
forgive them it doesn't matter what they have done understand them you know that's the word of
said we are not fighting against war and we are fighting against war but do you know that this
devil that we we call the devil how many people have seen the devil nobody how many people have
seen god because we god the devil they use people so now if my sister does something say something
bad to me and i begin to fight with them remember that it's not pastor terry that is the problem
is the devil that is behind pastor terry oh somebody are you hearing me if you put that in
your mind when somebody says something to you you just be like they don't know what they are doing
they are so now you tackle that demon behind the person instead of that person oh somebody hallelujah
so that battle is not with oh somebody today tell you and even say the battle is not with people
the battle is with principalities and powers
oh are you clapping your hands for jesus if we come to this understanding you begin you stop
fighting with your family members in your marriage you stop fighting because you you know oh okay
today uh-huh this one has come to visit him let me pray that in our in the mighty name of jesus
hallelujah oh this one has come to visit me right now sometimes you got to even deliver yourself
before you try to deliver other people oh my god this thing has come to visit me right now i'm
hearing negative voices right now but i shut it down right now in the name of jesus hallelujah
you get to realize that people are doing this it's not on their own there is a spirit that is
pulling them pulling and pushing them so now you have mercy to pray for people so that you can bring
people to total deliverance in the name of jesus but look at this that this man rohoboam you know
solomon had uh what do you call it has had gone to be with the lord and now his son rohoboam is
supposed to be the king look at this so when all the people of the israel saw that the king
had came not unto them the people answered the king saying what portion have we in david neither
have we inheritance in the son of jesse to your tents o israel now see to thy own house david so
israel departed unto their own things do you know that at that time solomon passed had gone to be
with the lord and the people wanted to be one with him since so they came to him and they said oh we
want you to take off some of the burdens that your father has put upon us so that we can serve you
but listen listen to this if you if you go back and read the story it tells you
that this young man went to the elders and when he went to the elders the elders
said to him listen to the people and work with them get understanding that is
what they were telling him but no what do you think he did he decided to go
among his friends the people that are the age group and what do you think they
told him oh forget those people tell them that you are even going to do worse
than your father did because he lacked understanding the people all walk away
from him may we not be like that somebody hallelujah that is what says
I'm telling you don't let anybody that is an elder it's not because they did
better than you or they know they were wiser than you or no sometimes they have
gone through that thing that you are going through and they want to tell you
that this path that you are going it will not going to do anything for you
hallelujah they are going to tell you that this part that you have decided this part that you
have taken this thing that you are trying to do it's not going to work out for you
but if you go among your friends because you know that friends give you comfort by your enemies give
you oh my god somebody bring you elevation sometimes you want your friends that will say
to you i love you i love you they will never tell you anything and we think that those are the people
that love us but you know that true friends will tell you when you are wrong oh are you clapping
your hands for jesus true friends will tell you that this thing that you are doing you need to get
out of it a true friend will tell you no no no don't go this path get out of that path but that
person that you know we love people that will say oh yeah you are doing good even when we are doing
bad hallelujah we want people that will say but you know we want people in our lives that will love
us but they are able also to tell us the truth oh somebody hallelujah they love you but they are
able to do what tell you the truth and the word of god tells us that that day rohoboam the kingdom
divided into two the enemy was used looking for an opportunity to separate the house of judah
from the house of israel and he gave the devil that opportunity and separated israel somebody
may that be not be us in the mighty name of jesus hallelujah that we are willing to do what listen
hallelujah oh somebody we are listening we are willing to do what listen my god so did you know
one day solomon even prayed a prayer to god in first king chapter 3 verse 9 let's go there he
prayed a prayer that i prayed that this will be our prayer in this month of november hallelujah
god he had sacrificed the word of god said that solomon sacrificed and sacrificed give so much
burnt offering and then god visited him when god visited him he asked solomon what do you want me
to give you somebody what would you have said one million dollars how many people have put
on one million dollars mercedes uh-huh somebody else what ah the boas the man that will supply all
my needs according to his riches in glory by christ jesus amen hallelujah that is everybody
will have a list but solomon asked that something that i want us to all pay attention to he said
give therefore thy servant and understanding heart to judge thy people that i may descend between good
and bad for who is able to judge dies so great a people what did he ask him god father give me
discernment that i may be able to know what is what good or bad i think we're praying one day
midnight there's a topic that came up and we're praying i said pass a terry and somebody else
was with us i won't mention the name but i said let's go to bed we are praying and we are after
we finish praying this midnight we are asking god show us what is actually going on i'm telling you
what I saw was not even what I was thinking.
As I lay down, it didn't take like an hour.
And then I just begin to see this man.
I see your face.
And it appeared and he said,
what you people did brought me to shame and disgrace.
You exposed me.
And now, guess what?
I'm going to do another thing.
Ooh.
Let me tell you something.
But do you think that when we were sitting out talking about it,
this is what we were thinking?
No.
Until God opens your eyes.
you will never see so somebody you are sitting here you have financial problem
you are going to work there are people that are going to work all right but at the end they can't
pay their bills and they don't know why you got it what descend and know what is actually going
on with your finances amen what is it why is it that i'm getting paycheck all right and at the end
of the two weeks i don't have money i'm still i'm still i'm still in luck you need what god gives you
understanding so that you'll be able to know and how to descend and bring solution to that area
in the mighty name of jesus amen so that is what he asked father give me a descending heart
so that i can be able to know so that i can know what how to judge in the right way so that i can
know how to do what the church between good and bad somebody just whisper this prayer unto the
lord father my god from this day forward sharp in my discernment let me know what is good and what
is bad are you praying are you crying out unto the lord father sharp in my discernment let me
know the things are good that things that are bad in the mighty name of jesus hallelujah
hallelujah oh hallelujah so for us to work in understanding we also have to be a have a
teachable spirit roboam did not have a teachable spirit when he went to the elders the elders
wanted to teach him take the burdens of the people so that they can support you he said no
i will listen to my friends oh the friends they bring you what comfort amen they will not challenge
you they are in the same level like you they might not know ahead but god will plant some people in
your life and they will tell you that this path that you are going oh it's not a good path oh
somebody hallelujah oh somebody hallelujah hallelujah so you have to have what a teachable
spirit hallelujah a teachable spirit so the teachable spirit say lord help me see what i may be missing
how many of us know that a teachable spirit say lord help me see what i may be missing
i think i am right in this situation my marriage i might think i am right the way that i'm doing
my finances the way i'm doing on my job the way i'm doing in my business i think i'm no father
help me to see my god and what i'm missing and god will help us so to grow in understanding those
of you that are writing notes number one listen before answering do you know that we all have that
problem write it now how many of us know that we have that problem we don't listen but listen
before we answer and you know when i was studying god said to me some people they don't even answer
with your mouth they will answer with their mind so before somebody comes to you and trying to talk
to you your mind already are prepared when she comes my apostle come to me today hey especially
ties and offer it i am prepared for apostle this time ah bam hallelujah my mama i'm telling you so
listen before you do a answer because if we don't listen we will answer wrongly inappropriately
we will answer with things that we don't even know is there hallelujah hallelujah because since
listen to me if somebody's on attack on attack and you go and you confront the person tell me
how the person is going to understand they won't understand you all they know is they see you
coming and attacking them hallelujah but if you pray for the person oh and bring the person to a
place of deliverance you can go to the person and you can speak and the person what will understand
hallelujah so let's listen before we do what we answer we are quick to answer
and sometimes i think we don't even listen we are already prepared for the person
how many people have done this before oh something is going on we are prepared to go meet the person
with whatever we want to tell the person but we don't go presenting the situation and giving the
person opportunity to speak what is actually going on so that we can because since do you know that
when you really love somebody you won't understand them do you know that so god is telling me that
we're not working in understanding it's actually lack of love because if i really have i will have
a relationship with pastor terry do you know pastor is american she's born here i'm i'm from
ghana the way i understand some things and the way she understands is different hallelujah but if i
love pastor terry i have to come to a place of understanding so something she'll say i'll look at
what do you think i'm doing i'm trying to respond what rightly i'm trying to respond where i'm
responding so i don't lose a relationship are you clapping your hands for jesus so you have to
if you really love someone like this couple that is preparing to get married they love themselves
but if they decide that they are going to let what somebody have done what one
they will never be able to marry peacefully but if they love themselves
they already come to a place of what understanding so when he says something
and it's not even in the way she likes it let me think about this thing in
many because if she goes by immediately what he said to respond there won't be
no relationship but if you love somebody you push to do what understand them
because I want this relationship to move forward hallelujah so the person
because how many of us know that we are 100% oh we have different backgrounds we
have different thinking we were raised differently some of us are from
divorced homes some families some people families they stay together forever
some people all kind of things coming from our background so when we come
together there are things so the way sister Pearl is thinking will never be
the way I think Hallelujah But if I want to have a relationship with sister what do I do I need to have understanding So now when she says something oh let me not be quick to also fight her Because now what I doing I trying to break a relationship
So if you don't want to break a relationship, what do you do?
You come to a place of what?
Understanding.
Oh, somebody.
Oh, somebody.
Are you hearing me?
So somebody, you love somebody so much that you understand him.
My God, I understand you.
this is what you are going through this is the level that you are in right now
so i need to understand you hallelujah hallelujah
my god number two ask before assuming
oh somebody say bam all of us don't we do that
we ask would we ask before we assume are we afraid you know that is another
way of operating in fear instead of going to the person and
say to him oh why didn't you give me this oh i wonder you said you give me
this but you didn't give it to me why didn't you give it no we assume oh you see she's trying to
get this from me and our minds begin to move fast and before we know it we have broken a relationship
so why don't you just go to the person and ask them oh apostle why did you do this oh apostle
i thought i was the one singing but today when i came in i saw sister perl singing why is that
somebody hallelujah oh somebody hallelujah maybe i was just looking for somebody to sing at that
time and i saw sister broke came in and i just gave her the opportunity to sing i'm not saying
that you're supposed to sit down but if you don't come and ask i know that there's a sister here
one day she said to me oh can i sing i said yes of course she said oh i thought you would say no
she said oh because you know me my mouth i said if you talk me i don't know
hallelujah i will know if you see what the enemy will be doing with us mama no since i'm telling
you in our my god hallelujah let freedom come in the house of the lord let freedom come in our
families let freedom come in our marriages in our homes we open that door for what freedom
that person is not even thinking of anything but if we want to understand people we don't want we
will what we will ask before we assume number three receive correction with humility
receive we got to be a people that receive for when someone comes oh oh i passed it oh okay i'm
sorry and i just move on hallelujah and and then we are not upset either you know that
that we are not upset we are not holding grudges we are not holding the person the person said this
is what is going on with them this is because you see everything is about perception this is how the
the person perceived it and sometimes they are perceiving that from their background what they
went through hallelujah amen so now when we get to a place that we can what receive correction with
humility you know the other day i'm telling you honestly i was driving and i was trying to go to
i was trying to get the works real quick yeah and i'm driving fast then i realized that well you know
most times sundays i bought i feel my tank that i forgot to put gas in my tongue i got to the gas
station there's this young guy he's standing there on his phone so i started horning when i
and he came he said i'll put the gas in the car but next time don't horn i said this listen if we
don't have understanding what would you have said you need to do your job no i heard the holy spirit
said to him receive him so then i just said to him well thank you for coming to but i didn't want
to disturb you i did it because i have to really get to work oh okay oh are you clapping your hands
for jesus are you clapping your hands for jesus so sometimes it's the way we respond hallelujah
the way we respond that will cause the situation to keep going and the animosity the anger the
bitterness the jealousy the envious the backbiting but if i love someone i will want to understand the
person. Tells your neighbors, I love you too much. So I want to understand you. Hallelujah. Oh, somebody
tells you, I love you too much. So I want to understand you. Oh, hallelujah. Hallelujah. Oh, are you
clapping your hands for Jesus? Hallelujah. I think the other day we were on the line praying, on the
zoom line prayer was me it was three of us pastors praying we are praying praying then i realized
that pastor mary just came from work 12 hour shift and she's going so i could hear her and me too i'm
saying to her when you don't forget my fool don't forget my life but then i came to a place of
understanding and i said pastor mary you are tired let me release you and go to bed you see and that's
what understanding does hallelujah last night even we got on the line we were there on the line from
12 midnight by 3 a.m somebody was on the line one of your leaders so they started going to another
level hallelujah so i said to the other leader i said let's get off and get on let's get off because
i don't want her to be attacked because of what the prayer point that we prayed i said let's get
off leave her and let her sleep and let them but you see if you don't take care oh yeah what were
you on the line you know we're supposed to pray and you are not praying understanding so now the
word of god says understanding give favor do you know that understanding i understand what
we're going through right now understand this issue that you have right now i understand that
you are paying your bills right now i understand that you are taking care of your children right
now i understand that your children are small right now i understand that oh somebody i understand that
you are under attack right now i understand the battle that you are going through right now
hallelujah if we come to this place of understanding we will have more stronger families stronger
relationships in the mighty name of jesus and pray the last one pray for the sermon before we
were reacting any any of us who want to do that from now on pray for the sermon before you react
amen pray father what is actually going on before we are react amen because if you react immediately
what happened you know i had a situation with somebody that if i know what i know today i would
have responded uh what do you call it differently you know they thought they should be the head of
this church but they didn't know that it goes according to who the god gave the mantle to
okay when god called someone he called the person a visionary but in their mind they said i have to
be the one doing it you understand if i knew what i knew today i would have responded differently
Hallelujah
Because what do I have done?
I would have gained that person in the body of Christ
Oh are you hearing me?
Hallelujah
So it says it's not about us
I would have corrected the person
But I would have corrected the person in love
And me too at that time I didn't know
So me too I said
What are you talking about?
Hallelujah
So then we have to go to our fathers
Then when we go to our fathers
Our fathers are like
What are you talking about?
That's not how it's done
This is how it's done
But the person at that time
did not receive it how they're supposed to receive it but if i know what i know today
oh somebody are you hearing me i would have prayed i would have fasted for the person i would have
prayed for the person and today the person would have been here with us amen so let us be not be
too quick to judge hallelujah let us not be what too quick to judge if we want we love someone who
want to bring them out let us come to a place of divine understanding he said when all wisdom
let us get understanding oh let's just turn the law today i hope you got something out of this
message today oh i hope you were blessed by this word today hallelujah just rise up we are ending
we are just one prayer and then we go that you are saying father give me maybe there's an area
or if somebody's here if you want to come i'll pray with you because i have struggled with this
So I can actually what?
Pray for you.
Maybe there's an area that you are battling with.
And you need understanding.
Do you know that some people live in need to understand what church is all about?
Do you know that?
They don't have understanding.
Amen.
And they find themselves.
You are here.
Maybe it's in your marriage.
Maybe it's the relationship with your children.
Maybe it's your job.
Maybe it's your finances.
Whatever it is that you say, Father, help me have understanding.
Amen.
Jesus came to a place.
He said, Father.
forgive them they don't know what they are doing so sometimes the own forgiveness that we carry
is because we don't have understanding do you know that when you have understanding you don't
have any bitterness against anybody oh you forgive them easily hallelujah hallelujah oh somebody
hallelujah hallelujah you need understanding come forward i will pray with you because there is many
places listen especially marriage my god you so we need marital understanding if you don't have
marital understanding you cannot marry i'm telling you going and you know what you have friends that
will tell you leave the man leave the woman before you know you are in the third and fourth marriage
because you know what you met the first man he was a drug addict the next one is a thief that
i keep going hallelujah so you need to already go with what understanding hallelujah anybody that
needs understanding just come forward it might be any area of your life father give me understanding
Help me. Hallelujah.
Understand and help me do this thing right.
In the mighty name of Jesus.
Hallelujah.
Just stretch our hands on our sister and our brother.
Father my God, we thank you.
Father, we bless you for them, O God.
Father, they have come to the altar of grace.
Just as Solomon did and said, Father, give me understanding.
Father, any area of their life that they want understanding.
Father I pray in the mighty name of Jesus
That you give them understanding heart
That they will be able to understand
And Father in the mighty name of Jesus
That that division
That division that the enemy has set up
In their own will be completely broken
In the name of Jesus
Any area in their life that is seeing
Division, confusion, misunderstanding
Father today
I stand by the authority of the blood of Jesus
I stand by the authority
Of the word of God
That says anything that I bind is bound.
And anything that I lose is loose.
And I lose them from the hand of the enemy.
In the name of Jesus.
Father my God, I pray with God.
For understanding her.
Receive it.
Receive it.
Yes.
In the name of Jesus.
I speak peace in her family, God.
I speak peace in her marriage and life.
In the name of Jesus.
Father my God, I pray for understanding
In this marriage, God
Understanding in the home, God
All the chaos
Father my God
You know, I hear the Spirit of the Lord saying
Straighten your home
Agnes
Put your house in order
Agnes
And it starts with little things
It's not even about the man
Put the house in order
Make the house clean
Make the house flourishing
Open the windows and let the wind come in
Get up in the morning and cook breakfast
Cook and put food in the fridge
Position yourself as a wife
And God says, let me take care of the rest of you